Thank you so much Alisha. It took a lot of work to arrive at this. I had at first asked in a note about what is forgiveness.
And then I had encountered somebody who started well but then used ad-hominem attack on me when he didn’t know how to respond back to my questions. I had tried to explain to him why I had asked that question and he had misunderstood my explanation that I was targeting him when I used the words ‘dumb’ and he went on an attack spree.
After recovering from that I had asked my question once again in a post about forgiveness and finally somebody had said something that satisfied me and made me cry actually.
But, that act of giving me the choice to choose when and whether or not I wanted to forgive somebody who hurt, that choice that this woman had said to me, it was @Karin Flodstrom btw, that choice felt like God had answered me through her and I finally felt freedom from my personal heartache and that freedom inspired this post.
So, it has a rather long history of probably one week inside of Substack itself 😂 but thank you for reading and restacking. I realized in the process of asking these questions that many of us don’t have a clue of what we should or should not be doing after somebody hurt us emotionally. And that’s why wanted to share what I found with everybody.
And you know what? Once my hurt feelings felt validated, as if somebody said to me ‘I see that you are hurt, take your time to heal’, once I felt validated in this way, the healing from that hurt was almost instantaneous.
All the heart wants to feel is to be understood. When it hurts, it hurts. When it pains, it pains. When it cries, it cries. That’s all there is to it.
I very much appreciate the context of your experience. Thank you for taking the care to share this with me. (I have also just subscribed to Karin.) The one pulling the trigger, sometimes uses our own ammunition against us, because they have none of their own. Part of me thinks that it is a brilliant moment to be “shot” with ones own ammunition, because it seems certain that both learning and healing are possible, if we choose to take out the “bullet”. I love how you are describing the awareness it requires, and the choices that must be made, in order to avoid being truly harmed by another person. Sometimes, it is not possible to heal fully. The truth comes in many sized bullets. But then perhaps, we get a “big lesson” which only improves understanding overall? <3
Beautifully explained. Thank you for sharing your truth, Shalini! Your openness is a gift to your readers.
It’s a bit like the Chinese finger puzzle. The harder we try to force ourselves to let go and forgive, the tighter we are held in the trap.
But when we relax, and accept our anger, lack of forgiveness, and pain, allowing ourselves to feel what we feel without shame but with self/love instead, the natural process of healing can be activated.
In your case, the healing came very quickly. I am glad. For many of us, the healing can take longer. As you have said, it takes as long as it takes.
I have no doubt that you have put many on the path of healing with this post .
Thank you for mentioning that Karin. That is my hope as well. And for which I write too. And thank you for bringing this good news to us all! It’s such a relief from guilt of not being able to forgive as expected in this era
Still reading and slowly still and yes, if you are wondering how I got inspired to write this one, it was after reading that chapter about forgiveness in the book!
The more I am reading this book, the more I am getting triggered. I didn’t expect this. It has started getting on my nerves already.
First of all, you do not trust in a person who got the idea to write a book on an elevator ride. No, if you are going to write a book, you have to write all of it, if not most of it based off of your experiences with the true God.
God is love and that’s it. Period!
There’s no more than that. Even if it means he’s leading you to greener pastures when you are dying in the hot and dried up grasslands! Do you understand this?
I’m afraid you and I are on the same journey to the south “wizard of oz” looking for answers. No wonder God brought us together.
I just posted another note about faith. Read it or not. I think my questions carry truth in them.
Hope you had a good day! Have a good night also! Peace ✌🏽
My writing may appear full of pain but I only gather them like precious stones lying scattered on a beach in Florida. And when I do, I show them off like a true collector. No, my painful posts don’t keep me in pain. They just come and go like everybody’s else’s. But the majority of time, I am zen! So, don’t be afraid for me. And I won’t change your account. I hope you’ll be zen soon too!
lol, when I get passionate about something, I write like that. It has nothing to do with you Clay. You’re so sweet. Thank you for always reading!
And this person who wrote this book, said he got the idea to write this book in an elevator ride or something like that. You do not get an idea to write a book about God in an elevator ride. It has to burn within you like fire that you cannot ignore without bowing down to it.
Whatever he has written is the same old reel we have been fed for 20 centuries. I haven’t encountered anything new in his writing yet.
And in the wizard of oz, after they try and kill the wicked witch of the east that the wizard oz had asked them to do in exchange for sending her back home to Kansas, when he was also unable to help her go back home, which went to 3/4s of the story, they finally go to the “witch of the south” looking for answers. That’s what I meant.
That whatever we have studied in life was not enough, we still have to cross the “hill of the strange creatures”, that’s another something they needed to accomplish in the story in order to find the truth that would finally get her ( and us) back home!
Hi Shalini =) In this work, I very much appreciation your exploration of the deep hurts and fears which bring us to the mirror of truth.
Thank you so much Alisha. It took a lot of work to arrive at this. I had at first asked in a note about what is forgiveness.
And then I had encountered somebody who started well but then used ad-hominem attack on me when he didn’t know how to respond back to my questions. I had tried to explain to him why I had asked that question and he had misunderstood my explanation that I was targeting him when I used the words ‘dumb’ and he went on an attack spree.
After recovering from that I had asked my question once again in a post about forgiveness and finally somebody had said something that satisfied me and made me cry actually.
But, that act of giving me the choice to choose when and whether or not I wanted to forgive somebody who hurt, that choice that this woman had said to me, it was @Karin Flodstrom btw, that choice felt like God had answered me through her and I finally felt freedom from my personal heartache and that freedom inspired this post.
So, it has a rather long history of probably one week inside of Substack itself 😂 but thank you for reading and restacking. I realized in the process of asking these questions that many of us don’t have a clue of what we should or should not be doing after somebody hurt us emotionally. And that’s why wanted to share what I found with everybody.
And you know what? Once my hurt feelings felt validated, as if somebody said to me ‘I see that you are hurt, take your time to heal’, once I felt validated in this way, the healing from that hurt was almost instantaneous.
All the heart wants to feel is to be understood. When it hurts, it hurts. When it pains, it pains. When it cries, it cries. That’s all there is to it.
I very much appreciate the context of your experience. Thank you for taking the care to share this with me. (I have also just subscribed to Karin.) The one pulling the trigger, sometimes uses our own ammunition against us, because they have none of their own. Part of me thinks that it is a brilliant moment to be “shot” with ones own ammunition, because it seems certain that both learning and healing are possible, if we choose to take out the “bullet”. I love how you are describing the awareness it requires, and the choices that must be made, in order to avoid being truly harmed by another person. Sometimes, it is not possible to heal fully. The truth comes in many sized bullets. But then perhaps, we get a “big lesson” which only improves understanding overall? <3
Amen to that! With a deep breath and gratitude.
<3 With the same returned to you my friend <3
Thank you, Alisha!
Hi Karin =) This is a pleasure to have learned about you through Shalini. I look forward to “digging-in” to your work!
Thank you, Alisha! My style is different from our Shalini’s. I hope you won’t be disappointed.
So glad to hear you are feeling better! I’m honored my simple words helped you!
The pleasure is mine and what a relief it is!
Beautifully explained. Thank you for sharing your truth, Shalini! Your openness is a gift to your readers.
It’s a bit like the Chinese finger puzzle. The harder we try to force ourselves to let go and forgive, the tighter we are held in the trap.
But when we relax, and accept our anger, lack of forgiveness, and pain, allowing ourselves to feel what we feel without shame but with self/love instead, the natural process of healing can be activated.
In your case, the healing came very quickly. I am glad. For many of us, the healing can take longer. As you have said, it takes as long as it takes.
I have no doubt that you have put many on the path of healing with this post .
Thank you for mentioning that Karin. That is my hope as well. And for which I write too. And thank you for bringing this good news to us all! It’s such a relief from guilt of not being able to forgive as expected in this era
Still reading and slowly still and yes, if you are wondering how I got inspired to write this one, it was after reading that chapter about forgiveness in the book!
I’d love that. Do let me know when you pass by. We’ll surely meet for breakfast or lunch!
Don’t see it on Facebook. Can u send a link?
The more I am reading this book, the more I am getting triggered. I didn’t expect this. It has started getting on my nerves already.
First of all, you do not trust in a person who got the idea to write a book on an elevator ride. No, if you are going to write a book, you have to write all of it, if not most of it based off of your experiences with the true God.
God is love and that’s it. Period!
There’s no more than that. Even if it means he’s leading you to greener pastures when you are dying in the hot and dried up grasslands! Do you understand this?
I’m afraid you and I are on the same journey to the south “wizard of oz” looking for answers. No wonder God brought us together.
I just posted another note about faith. Read it or not. I think my questions carry truth in them.
Hope you had a good day! Have a good night also! Peace ✌🏽
You should visit sometime
Oh oh! Sorry to hear that! Take care my friend!
My writing may appear full of pain but I only gather them like precious stones lying scattered on a beach in Florida. And when I do, I show them off like a true collector. No, my painful posts don’t keep me in pain. They just come and go like everybody’s else’s. But the majority of time, I am zen! So, don’t be afraid for me. And I won’t change your account. I hope you’ll be zen soon too!
Good luck dear friend. May God lead you to pleasant waters!
What happened ?
Oh you don’t want to hear that! Trust me! 😅
No no, we’ll talk sometime
We should talk about her but I think it’s going to take another hour worth of discussion at least
lol, when I get passionate about something, I write like that. It has nothing to do with you Clay. You’re so sweet. Thank you for always reading!
And this person who wrote this book, said he got the idea to write this book in an elevator ride or something like that. You do not get an idea to write a book about God in an elevator ride. It has to burn within you like fire that you cannot ignore without bowing down to it.
Whatever he has written is the same old reel we have been fed for 20 centuries. I haven’t encountered anything new in his writing yet.
And in the wizard of oz, after they try and kill the wicked witch of the east that the wizard oz had asked them to do in exchange for sending her back home to Kansas, when he was also unable to help her go back home, which went to 3/4s of the story, they finally go to the “witch of the south” looking for answers. That’s what I meant.
That whatever we have studied in life was not enough, we still have to cross the “hill of the strange creatures”, that’s another something they needed to accomplish in the story in order to find the truth that would finally get her ( and us) back home!
Haha 🤣