Dependence
Are you dependent on anybody or thing? Have you been there but are not anymore? How did you get unstuck?
Dependence
We are all dependent on many things
And some people as well in our lives everyday
It’s when that dependence take a root on its own
And bothers us beyond
Our ability to stay sane
Without their presence
That kind of dependence becomes harmful for us
Have you experienced that?
Substance abuse is an addiction
That builds up slowly
And then we are lost into its world forever
No I don’t do that!
Just heard about it
What I’ve learnt from others
Who have struggled
With that kind of dependence for years
And then there are those
Who are so dependent on their people
It’s becomes a sort of obsession afterwards
Dependence
Can be hard to break
Especially when one of you is dependent on the other
But the other isn’t
That’s when it becomes really hard to penetrate
And break the bond
Have you experienced that?
When you love,
You should love deeply and passionately
No doubt about it
But dependence on another person
Especially on one
Who doesn’t equally depend on you
That’s gonna cause you some real issues
Sometimes it can get really hard to manage
So what do you do
Identify if you belong to this group
Find out why you are dependent on them
And try if you can to eliminate the cause
The source that makes you depend on them
You can love without being dependent
Identification is important for peace of mind
And once identified
Slowly and surely
Remove the need to depend on them
Step by step like you would do
When you step on a patch of thorns
Which buries itself into your flesh
One thorn at a time
So that the pain is endurable
And doesn’t kill you in the process
Reading JK and Ramana Maharishi helps
Think about this!
Peace ✌🏽
Dependence is shown here not as weakness, but as the fragile thread that binds us to life.
It reminds us that we lean on people and things, yet sometimes that leaning becomes a quiet prison.
Love, when unequal, can turn into chains, leaving one heart bound while the other walks free.
The metaphor of thorns captures the pain of release slow, deliberate, one wound at a time.
Breaking dependence is not sudden liberation but a ritual of patience, of enduring small hurts.
The text insists that passion must breathe without possession, that love must not suffocate.
It asks us to name the roots of our need, to face the source with honesty.
Wisdom becomes a lantern here, guiding us through the dark corridors of attachment.
Peace of mind is not found in clinging, but in reclaiming the breath that is ours alone.
Ultimately, the message is tender: to love deeply, but never lose yourself in dependence.
Shalini, this felt like sitting with someone who’s trying to name something tender without hurting themselves in the process. I liked how you approached dependence not as a flaw, but as something that grows quietly when we’re not watching — and how you made space for both the love in it and the danger.
The “one thorn at a time” image stayed with me. It captures so well how slow and deliberate healing actually is, especially when you’re trying to unhook yourself from someone you leaned on too heavily. It’s not dramatic. It’s patient. It hurts, but it frees.
Your piece reads like a gentle reminder that love doesn’t have to mean losing your balance — and I appreciated the calm clarity in the way you put it across.
Thank you for sharing this reflection. It lands softly.