Why We Must Stop Comparing Ourselves With Others
Why We Need to Stop Comparing Ourselves with Others
Some people grow up hinged to others — people like parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, or others. They grow up in security. They feel safe around those they are hinged to, so they don’t feel the need to protect themselves or to prove themselves worthy of attention.
But then there are those who grow up unhinged. They don’t experience security. They feel the need to prove their worthiness to others in order to be paid attention to. This makes them thinkers. They are constantly thinking and improvising based on the feedback they receive. They are always reinventing themselves.
The two kinds cannot be compared. They simply live on different planes of reality.
For the first kind, attention is never absent. They enjoy being in society and in company. They cannot live without others beside them. They feel the need to constantly be in connection with others. These people become good administrators. They love being among people, enjoy taking care of others, and enjoy being seen as philanthropic. They articulate well, know how to use rhetoric to their advantage, and always have command over themselves and their surroundings. They are charismatic and employ their skills to their advantage. They can be moderately narcissistic as well, due to these qualities.
Those on the other side of the coin are always by themselves. They enjoy solitude. It is not that they don’t enjoy company, but they would rather dine with one or two than be the talk of the town. They would rather spend their time among books or in the company of their talents and chosen skills. They are artistic. They enjoy the company of nature and are drawn to mountains, oceans, the sky, clouds, even wind and rain. They enjoy sunshine and can go on long walks, often alone and in deep thought. They speak clearly and precisely and don’t ramble. They are not easily impressed by clever talkers, but any display of intelligence draws their attention and appreciation. They are philosophers who enjoy debating ideas. They are dreamers who usually have many solutions for the problems of the world but do not know how to get them out so the world will stop and take note.
When the two kinds of people come together, one of two things happens: it’s either pure magic or it’s pure disaster.
i'm on the other side of the coin who got adopted by the first kind and i think we have pure magic when together as besties haha
Shalini,
once again, this is a very interesting concept. I am very much both of these. I am well known among friends and family for many of these characteristics. Dare I ask which one you are? I think I know. If it's private, of course, I know you will tell me this and you won't be offended that I asked. I'm also curious as to the inspiration for this piece. It truly is very interesting.