Untethered: Can Love Be Conditional?
A Question To Ponder
Do We Really Need Tethering?
What is tethering? Binding something to another thing so that it doesn’t fall off, run away, break open or even simply leak.
But why do we need tethering?
Do we really need to be bound to another person through some means such as a ring or a document that states so?
Yes, in olden days, the woman didn’t go to work and so the men had to be tethered through some form to make sure the women and children are taken care of. But in today’s day and age, when the women also go to work and earn enough to raise children on their own, why is there a need for a tethering?
If you are lovable and loved, your man is going to stay tethered to you as long as you are lovable. And if he doesn’t want to for some reason, he was never yours anyway.
So, why do we need to use a symbol, a written document, or anything at all to stay tethered to each other?
Why does anybody have to live under one roof if they don’t want to, just because they are bound to each other by a statement or a document or a word of mouth?
The day you bind two people and say commitment, that day you lose some of them.
Just let them be as free as they want to be. If they want to run away, let them go.
Is a document going to bind them to you really? How so? For the sake of the government? Subsidies? Children?
Once there is no love between two people, isn’t it better to understand that situation and move out of each other’s lives so at least one of them can be happy and the children can live peacefully?
This is my opinion. If you have a different perspective, please participate in the comments section. I would like to know if there are better reasons to have tethering in a marriage.
Not bringing this up to break anybody’s marriage. Just stating my thoughts.
Thanks for listening.
Peace ✌️
This is a very interesting series of questions and considerations. Every relationship has, what I would call, "a morning," "an afternoon," and "an evening." The morning is where your passions are at their peak. It's new, it's exciting, it's experimental. The afternoon, is when you've learning more about your partner. Things have gotten either a stability and growing depth or there are cracks in the plaster. If you work through those things you get to the evening. The evening is where you've dealt with all the flaws in each other and gone beyond them to the love that comes from sharing. Some people would say that without a contract, you'll never survive past the afternoon.