Love Is Enough For Us
The Whole World Was Created for Us Humans Out of Love and We Were Created to Love Each Other
Have you ever loved a person? How did it feel? Did you feel joyful? Did you feel peaceful? Did you feel blessed in their presence?
Or did you feel tired? Ugly? Unhappy? Stone-faced? Potty-mouthed?
Did you feel warm and fuzzy inside of you? Did you feel light inside of you? Light as in not heavy but also light as if a warm soft light glowed within you.
Did you want to keep this person as happy as you wanted to be?
Did you want to keep this person just as he/she wanted to be?
If you did, then you have experienced Love.
Have you enjoyed how babies talk? Have you enjoyed how they mispronounce certain words? My son used to say—member that?, when he was like 3 years old. We enjoyed repeating after him. My daughter says— wout for without and we enjoy that. The day they start pronouncing them correctly we will feel—oh no, we lost the beautiful words! That’s love. Enjoying people as they come, as they are with all their quirks—good, bad and ugly too sometimes. We can admire even their anger when we are in love with another.
You know your son wants to eat at Raising Canes, it is not the weekend yet, you don’t want to keep spending on outside food and yet you turn towards the right instead of turning left to go home, that is love. You want to keep them happy and sometimes you go out of your way to make them happy for just that little bit of joy you see in their eyes, it lights you up! That is love.
You are watching a movie and suddenly there is something funny in it and you can’t control your laughter because you didn’t expect this, and when you cackle with tears in you eyes, your spouse comes and pushes you into the cushion and lies on you because he sees you joyful. That’s love.
You cry aloud in pain while grieving for your dad, you’re unable to control your emotions. Your son comes and kneels beside you and put his hands over your shoulder and holds you tight until that emotion passes. That’s love.
You cry to your friend over the state of affairs you are going through. He stays with you the whole time silently as hours pass by. He doesn’t judge. Doesn’t advise. Just stays and nods and feels sorry for you. That’s empathy. That’s also born out of love for you.
An acquaintance is enchanted by your words or actions, lingers a little bit longer than he/she should or wants to hang out with you for a few extra mins. That’s also love. The eagerness to linger a little bit longer to seek wisdom, knowledge understanding or just plain hang out because it feels good. That is also love. Could be a mentor mentee relationship, employee looking up to a supervisor who teaches something valuable. Or even a friend who simply wants to feel the comfort you provide when in company with you.
Any friendship that wants to grow and build into a stronger relationship would be based on love for each other. There’s nothing wrong with loving another person. Every relationship that is based upon love grows and becomes stronger. Builds muscles and lasts longer.
Now compare this to making money for instance. Why do we need to make money? Is it to build our talents or skills? Nada. It is only to make our living smoother, easier and more convenient.
For a poor person, a little extra money will bring much needed cushioning to draw from in times of sudden unexpected expenditures that show up. For a moderately well-to-do person, a little extra money will bring a little extra cushioning or a little extra luxury. And for a rich person, a little extra money will either make them indulge in philanthropy if they are grateful for that extra money showing up at their doorstep or it might make them start hoarding for more greedily. It all depends.
But money can only buy pleasure not joy. Pleasure is a dopamine hit, it will go away as soon as it comes and the person will be left feeling empty seeking more and more dopamine hits.
But when there is love for another person, the warmth will fill your heart and it will always be there for them, always filled up and ready to give when the person shows up at your doorstep. And giving can range from a simple smile of delight to doing difficult tasks for the person you love, like moving heavy furniture or even giving up something else that you love or are addicted to. It will be work but it can be executed joyfully for the person who you want to keep happy in a relationship with you.
With money you can travel the world but without a companion, traveling the world may not be so much fun. But if you go with the person you love, even the beach or park or a ride in a bus would be so much fun. Inducing not only joy, delight but even pleasure of it is the right one.
We are created as human beings and human beings are social beings. We live and thrive on connections alone. Without another human being beside us, we will wilt and rot away in depression and suicidal tendencies even. Or it might manifest as chronic conditions. But if you are with the right person, even chronic conditions will be forgotten and put aside for time being.
Phones, houses, cars, traveling, everything we will need but however cheap or expensive they are, they will not increase our joy manifold. One thing only is needed and that is the love for another person and that will make you feel complete. Especially if that person is the one who will complement you in many things. Like the things you don’t like to do.
There was once a time when I used to run the groceries but now my husband does that. I used to sweep the house but now my husband does that. As you grow older together and understand each other and know what you can do and can’t do and he steps in to do those things, there’s nothing like that! Only love is needed to bring joy and satisfaction. To complete the incomplete you. Money can only do so much for you.
You have got to evaluate how much time you spend for money versus how much time you spend on your loved ones. You have to see which brings you value for the time spent on it. And then invest your time wisely. Time is the only precious commodity. And when you spend your time wisely you will reap manifold.
So think about this. Is love enough for you? And if not, how much money do you need and how much time are you willing to spend on it? And why do you want this amount of money? Is it worth spending your valuable time on it. Because when you spend more time on something, doesn’t have to be money, could simply be the TV, the phone or even the bathroom, that time is taken away from spending with loved ones.
But you will never know what you missed out on until you invest that time with them.
I usually read to my daughter, and my husband plays with her. Yesterday my husband decided to read to her and you should see her joy as she huddled up with him in bed as he read to her. When I went to the room, she looked at me anxiously wondering whether I was going to be jealous or angry of how she was huddled with him as he was reading to her. But I could only see the lingering soul satisfaction in her face. It was such a delight to see them together like that! I will remember that face forever.
Every bit of togetherness counts. Every bit makes you grow closer together and brings you soul satisfaction. Can money beat that? Or talent in whatever you invest yourself in? Yes it can bring you joy when you practice hard and perfect your talents but can you compare that to doing almost nothing except hanging out with the object of your attention? Can anything beat that ? I doubt it! Love is enough for us humans. Everything else can take a step back.
Think about this.
Cheers!
Absolutely beautiful ❤️